5 Tips to Deal with a Breakup - Healing a Broken Heart
Published January 18, 2023 by Sabah V.
Breakups are hard. Loving someone can arguably be the best feeling in the world, and losing that connection can twist reality in a way to make you feel like the world is crumbling in front of your eyes. In this post, I have gathered 5 tips to help you process the breakup in a healthy way and begin your healing process. You deserve to feel better.
Tip 1: Realize that he/she is a human being in the world, just like you.
Your ex partner is a human being in this world just like you. It is normal to not want good things for your ex, but this is an unhealthy way of thinking. You guys broke up for a reason, and your ex partner deserves good things in this world just as you do.
They deserve to get over you just as much as you deserve to get over them.
They deserve to meet new people just as much as you want to meet new people.
They deserve to be happy just as much as you deserve to be happy.
The sooner you accept this, the less hold your ex partner will have over you emotionally because you will realize that what they do with their life does not concern you. This will also help you to stop viewing the breakup as a competition of who is doing better.
Tip 2: Allow yourself clarity.
There is a reason why people say things like “I can’t believe I dated them” when they have fully healed over the breakup. Having enough time to yourself will cause you to stop only thinking about the good times, but to ponder on the bad times as well. This will eventually bring you to a new perspective in terms of the reality of the relationship.
I recommend following No Contact. This means a strict no speaking or reaching out for 30 days to allow yourself clarity. The way you see the situation will totally change in 30 days if you allow a clean break from any communication. Unfollow your ex on social media if you have to in order to stop thinking about them.
Tip 3: Tap into your inner child.
Breakups provide us with a sense of abandonment and loss of comfort, your inner child is what is hurting the most from this. Hearing them out can go a long way. You are that small child, the negative and scary emotions you feel are your inner child feeling afraid.
View yourself the way you are, walking into a room and seeing a 5 year old version of you. Talk to him/her and hear them out about how they feel. This practice is very helpful in determining why you feel the way you do at a deeper level.
Tip 4: Realize that it is up to you to make yourself feel better by building better habits, and that you can only pity yourself for so long.
This may come off harsh, but it is true. Nobody is going to give you a prize because of how sad you are. At the end of the day this is a battle of you versus you. It is up to you to slowly build better habits within yourself to create a momentum of change. It is difficult, but it is also very achievable. I suggest creating small habits that are healthy whether it is physical or mental and focus on your creativity.
Tip 5: Realize that you will find love again, even though you don’t believe it now.
You will find love again, and you will love harder. You have no idea what the future holds, and the idea of life that you hold in your head is always subject to change. Let go of your pain and accept the beautiful things that await you in your future.
I promise, you won’t hurt this bad forever.