What Should I Do If My Partner Cheated On Me?
Published April 5th, 2023 by Sabah V.
Being cheated on is one of the worst feelings of betrayal a human being can experience. Depending on the length of your relationship, this can cause some serious emotional damage. But, not to worry – in this article we have outlined three great rules to handle this difficult obstacle like a champ and keep your life moving onward and upward.
1. Preserve Your Honor
When you hear this kind of news, it is hard not to feel overcome with emotions. But, it is very important to handle this in the best way possible and use your logic rather than your emotions.
You will remember how you acted afterwards, and it will play a major factor in your self-esteem. If you don’t take the news too well and cry your heart out to your partner – you will be more likely to feel ashamed of yourself after the fact.
If you already acted and are ashamed with how it went, don’t worry. I have been there before, and this is why we still have two more rules to follow. It isn’t too late to redeem yourself.
2. Do Not Take Them Back
When I was 17, my girlfriend of 3 years cheated on me. When I found out, I was furious and couldn’t wait to throw it in her face. I fully expected her to be very apologetic and beg for my forgiveness, but to my surprise: she didn’t care at all and actually wanted to break up right then and there.
I was shattered. I couldn’t cope. A few weeks later the guy that she was seeing wasn’t interested in her anymore, so she began reaching out to me again. She told me she made a mistake and that I was perfect for her.
Being in the fragile state of mind I was in, I was ready to stop feeling the weight of the pain and I took her back happily. This was one of the worst decisions I ever made. Our relationship was never the same again, we argued more than ever and I constantly felt insecure about our relationship.
This is a hard cold truth you will have to accept: No matter what the circumstance is, your relationship will never return back to normal if there was infidelity involved, so save yourself the energy and move on.
3. Heal Properly
When you go through a breakup there is a sense of insecurity and competition that may arise from the situation depending on the person. Given that an instance of cheating causes more pain than a regular breakup, these feelings of insecurity and competition may be more intense.
It is important to not allow yourself to think this way. Heal in ways that align with your personality. If you want to be alone, spend time reading and learning. If you want to get yourself out there, spend more time with friends and family. There isn’t only one way to heal, and that is a beautiful thing.
We have a few articles that touch on the topic of moving on from a breakup in a healthy, productive way. Here is one:
5 Tips to Deal with a Breakup – Healing a Broken Heart