Why You Shouldn't Overlook Red Flags
Published April 3rd, 2023 by Sabah V.
“When you look at someone through rose-colored glasses, all the red flags just look like flags.” — Wanda, Bojack Horseman
When I Ignored Red Flags
There was two different incidents in college where I entered a relationship with a girl although I knew it was a bad idea. Sometimes we still see the red flags yet we choose to ignore them because of how we feel in the moment. I’m here to tell you to not ignore those red flags.
With one of these girls specifically: I had written in my notes the abundance of red flags I had seen and how I need to cut things off with her because it just wouldn’t work out.
Did I? Nope! You guessed it! And the way this relationship fell apart broke me for months on end. If I hadn’t ignored the red flags from the beginning, I would have saved myself countless months of agony and despair.
What To Do When You See Red Flags
These are the moments when it is worth it to think logically. Sure, love is definitely amazing. But, some people’s lives really get ruined over bad relationships.
So yes, love with your entire heart. But, if you have a strong gut feeling that something isn’t right, trust your gut.
It may be worth to analyze all the pros and cons and see if the cons can be worked out. I’m not saying that you need to disqualify everyone who has something that you disagree with, but if the cons outweigh the pros then it may be worth it to reconsider if this relationship is worth it for you or if it has a strong possibility of causing issues for you both.
